Coffee/Wi-Fi places are the best thing since sliced bread. I find myself frequenting the "flying satellites orbiting stars and rainbows" brand of atmosphere these days. Between frequent flyer cards, Crave salads, oversized chairs, meetings with Thomas, and house brew, I have crowned these as my official comfort places. Unfortunately, I end up spending half of my time searching for interesting websites to read and the other half of the time blogging/commenting about things. Well tonight, this will all change. I have homework to do, but the blog MUST come first.
Subject of the Day: Friendships can be such a complicated thing.
It's hard for me to make friends with people. I love it when I actually click with someone for the first time, specifically with other guys because it is always so awkward to corner a person into liking you.
Isn't it so interesting how our culture starts friendships? I'm not even sure how they properly begin. I guess you have class with someone or you meet them at an interest group, and then you invite them to a flying rainbow and chit chat about how your life has been such an interesting experience. This is followed by a mutual realization that you both have lives of similar ambitions, interests, and lifestyles. Now as the commonality needed to further an acquaintanceship has been established, you invite them to a get together with other friends you have. Then, from there, conversation and knowledge about a person blossoms. But how does it really grow and what makes people click? I'm still at a loss for understanding. If you know, please enlighten me.
Ok....let's see. I haven't thought about that before but if you think about it, I'm not sure if it really has anything to do truly with if you have similar interests/ambitions/etc because I have a few friends who are definitely not on the same track or anywhere close to where I'm going but not to diminish this characteristic of relationships, this is most definitely helpful. Also, I think there has to be a mutual interest in finding friends and devoting time to said relationship. There's been many a girl that we kicked off well but our friendship just plummetted because we both didn't have the time to invest in such things. Soo...also, I think for Christians it is easier because they have that one commonality and that's where the basis of commonality should be. Oh yeah, I think one other thing that spurs on friendships is seeing something in that other person that you desire within yourself. I don't know. That probably didn't make any sense---lots of ramblings.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with the Christian commonality. Also, I like the idea that you see characteristics that you desire in yourself. Good points.
ReplyDeletePerhaps if you weren't trying "to corner a person into liking you," it wouldn't be so "awkward." Friendship can't be forced -- it's mutual.
ReplyDeleteJust a thought.